By explaining “why”, it minimizes the emotions and forces an attack on the problem at hand, and not the person delivering the info i.e., attack problems, not people.
by Hunter Marckwardt
Sunday Thoughts Posts
When I’m strong of mind, or strong of heart, my faith overcomes any fear I’m feeling from the pressure and the mindset shifts to “failure is not an option”.
I’m going to finish typing this, I’m going to get in my car, and I’m going to take my dad for a ride. Yes life can get crazy but we need to keep the irrelevant crap in check and focus on the stuff that matters, which for me has everything to do with honoring the relationships I have with the people I love.
Simple exercise for me, every thought that comes into my brain, push it into 2 categories, is this love or fear?
…and he simply said “I try to evaluate how this decision is going to impact me 3 or 5 years out. Also when you look at the best and worst case scenarios, usually the worst case scenarios aren’t as bad as you think”.
I want to be a buffalo in everything I do. None of us are perfect and it’s easy to slip into a cow mentality in all of our lives but the sooner we can say “I’m going down the wrong path”, or, “I have no path”, that’s when we need to take a moment and switch directions.
It’s been said many of times will power doesn’t work, you have to change the way you think and I believe my friend’s morning encouragement and nightly review is as simple as it gets to put the odds in my favor of having an amazing day. Have enough amazing days and you end up with an amazing life!
Great moments are created when we don’t feel like saying yes, but know we should, and actually say “yes”.
To tell your son, “you are me, and I am you, so I understand what it’s like”, was liberating for both of us. It made me appreciate his struggle so much more and as important, to help him find resolution (and me). I’d like to think when he and I think clearly, our thoughts are as good as they get, some serious goodness comes on the other side of our own personal Geronimo’s.
When I take a chill pill (not literally although I know they exist), and start looking at what I can control, I gain clarity, fear goes away, concerns go away, anxiety drops, and head space improves. So focus on what I can control.